15/04/2026
Old age has a way of humbling everything your strength, your pride, even the noise of past conflicts.
These days, you hear some men say, “ti omo ba dagba, o ma wa baba e” (when the child grows, they will come back to their father). I just smile, because life doesn’t work that way.
Ojú e á bọ. Especially not with the children of today.
You can’t disappear for years and expect love to remain the same. You can’t reap where you didn’t sow. Life has a way of balancing things what you give is what returns to you.
Some people have lived this reality raising children alone for years while the other parent stays absent. But time has a voice, and it speaks eventually.
A man who once felt untouchable will one day need support. A woman who held everything together will one day need someone to lean on. That’s life.
But one thing that should never fade with time is responsibility especially as a father.
No matter what happened between you and their mother, your children are still your children. They didn’t choose the misunderstanding, the separation, or the silence.
Don’t let old disagreements rob you of a relationship that should last a lifetime.
Because as the years go by, what truly matters isn’t who was right or wrong, it’s who showed up.
Nobody wants to grow old and feel abandoned. Nobody wants to look around and realize they pushed away the very people who could have been there.
So take care of your children. Be present. Let go of grudges that no longer serve you.
At the end of the day, family is what remains when everything else fades and how you treat them now is what will come back to meet you later.
Shalom 💕
