09/10/2026
October is Pregnancy & Baby Loss Awareness Month.
As a female-owned business, and a woman who’s experienced pregnancy losses, I’m sharing this to break the taboo and send some love to my girls. 🩷
Around 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet we’re still uncomfortable talking about it worrying about making others uncomfortable, Which is madness considering how physically and emotionally brutal it is.
I have a ridiculously high pain threshold (broke my spine, rated it 2/10 compared to labour 😂). Miscarriage? Significantly worse.
The grief, guilt, the giant baby bump, sickness,Christ the gore, endless bleeding, anger, loneliness, sometimes relief, disappointment in partners, worry for partners,the “ what ifs” and the FECKING HORMONES.
After one miscarriage, I left hospital crying & went straight to Zero to build shelving. Ended up smashing said shelving down & forced back to hospital with complications. Apparently DIY, heavy bleeding & emotional collapse aren’t a winning combination. Still was home to make tiny children dinner smiling. Odd, another loss I refused to acknowledge or move away from my daughters hospital bed as she recovered from open heart surgery.
We praise women for being resilient, but sometimes strength isn’t a choice. It’s forced survival.
I told myself to be grateful for my healthy children. But gratitude and grief can coexist. You can love what you have and mourn what you’ve lost.
This is for every woman who’s miscarried, experienced stillbirth, longed for a baby she couldn’t have, or loved a pregnancy she couldn’t continue. Your circumstances don’t make your grief any less valid.
And to my incredible girlfriends who cooked, hugged and loved me when I had nothing left, you are everything.
Here’s to more research into women’s health, less silence, more compassion and a world where women don’t have to be so bloody strong all the time. Men research, ask, be loyal, support and love.
P.S. Pregnancy loss awareness and reproductive rights go hand in hand. Abortion is healthcare. Women deserve bodily autonomy, compassion and choice. This isn’t “The Handmaid’s Tale “
Have you ever suffered a miscarriage? Did you feel supported?