10/07/2026
Its fall. The seasons are changing. Feelings fluctuate. Fall is hard for a lot of folks.
This has been on my mind for a long while. Last year I posted about slowing down in the fall. Being still. Enjoying the moment.
I am very grateful to have gained a lot of perspective and personal growth over the past couple years. I feel like I am seeing more deeply and appreciating everyone's story more.
Of course I love Cameron Whitcomb and some lyrics from Kingdom of Fear have been resonating in my mind. It talks about not being a burden, having the decency to shut the door, showing people what they need to see and nothing more... (Im not going to sing here okay)
What if when we were asked how we are doing we shared a little? Maybe not to the world, but maybe we started small. Maybe we answered you know were doing great but I've been dealing with (some grief, some pain, some difficulties wrapping my head around the world, some parenting challenges, health challenges, relationship, etc).
Do you know what might actually happen? You might share your burden. Someone might respond oh wow I had no idea, we are experiencing (x,y,z) right now. It might not be the same problem. It probably won't be.
You might actually create a conversation. You might feel lighter. You might feel less alone.
We are all on a journey. We all struggle with things through our journey. And, especially as (omg) middle aged women, we have experienced things - loss, grief, challenges. Challenges we probably never expected we would experience.
The more I talk about it the more I find connection. The more I recognize how much we all carry. Maybe not at this moment. But in our lives. And its okay for things to be like peachy keen perfect too. That's fantastic. We can celebrate the positive times. Its not a competition of who is doing more or who has it worse or who has it easiest.
We are all experiencing and I think we share the beauty, the burden and the love of the experience when we can peek into each other's world and build our perspective a bit too.
