27/06/2025
Listen to me Couples!!!...... Marriage nowadays is beyond
Oh, I'm paying my children school fees, I'm buying foodstuffs at home, they lack nothing. Excuse me Sir , How are you treating your wife ?
Let me stop here and hand it offer to Dr✍️.
Let's hear from Dr Kayode Aloyinlapa
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🎯I just got off a call with a man in his late 60s… and what he shared pierced my heart❗️
It left me with two powerful truths every man needs to hear, especially if you still want joy in your marriage, and peace in your old age.
✅1. The African mentality doesn’t work in today’s marriages❗️
Gone are the days when love was one-sided, and women were trained to endure silence, service, and suppression.
Our mothers and grandmothers were expected to “endure” marriage, not enjoy it.
They had no voice, No choice, No demand for love or respect.
They were simply told to serve their husbands and raise their children.
And because they had no expectations, rivalry in polygamy was rare❗️
But this generation of women is different❗️
They are “woke”.
They are aware.
They are vocal.
They know they deserve love, dignity, and respect❗️
If you want to enjoy your marriage today, you must learn mutual respect.
The mindset that a man must always win, even when he’s wrong, is outdated and dangerous❗️
This is no longer a man’s world.
It’s a shared life. A shared journey. A shared responsibility.
A sad reality you need to understand before it’s too late❗️
2. ✅Most women quietly endure until they no longer need you❗️
Yes…
Many women stay and endure the emotional damage just so they can raise their kids.
They endure until they can stand on their own, then they leave.
That’s why so many men end up alone in old age.
That’s why we read stories of elderly men cooking for themselves, suffering in silence, bitter, lonely, and broken.
Some think polygamy will solve the loneliness of old age.
But does it really❓
No. It doesn’t❗️
I have someone around, a family member, who married up to 4 or more and none is with him now in his 70s.
We all know how he treated the wives..
So, only responsibility, kindness, and love can secure your future
The truth is:
Men get lonely in old age❗️
Women hardly do❗️
Because once they have their children, their siblings, or even their circle of friends to do chochocho, they find connection and meaning again.
But men❓
Without the woman they ignored and mistreated, they are often left with nothing but regret.
In the last 7 days alone, three different men in their 50s and 60s have cried in my DM.
Each one came with deep regret…
Regret over how they treated the woman who once loved them deeply.
Regret over advice from friends, parents, or “tradition” that made them hard-hearted husbands.
They came not just to talk, but to thank me for the messages I preach, messages they once mocked, but now deeply understand❗️
They say, “If only I had listened to people like you… I wouldn’t be alone now.”
So, my brother reading this:
Love her now❗️
Respect her now❗️
Understand her now❗️
Build that bond now❗️
Not because she’s perfect. But because your future depends on it.
🎯PS: This post is for women who are doing their best to keep their marriages but being frustrated by their men… not for those ones who utterly disrespect their husbands and expect him to be acting like foool because he has read a post on mutual respect o..😏💁🏽♂️
Written by ✍️ Dr Kayode Aloyinlapa
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