02/03/2026
My Journey Through Love, Hardship, and Betrayal (2019–Present)
The year 2019 remains one of the most memorable years of my life. It was the year I married the woman I deeply loved and trusted. Among many beautiful women around me at my workplace, she fought to earn a place in my heart, and I chose her. I believed in her so strongly that I felt I could even sacrifice my life for her.
Later that same year, COVID-19 (Coronavirus) reached Kenya. The government announced lockdowns, businesses shut down, and many people—including myself—lost their jobs. Opportunities became scarce and survival became uncertain.
At that very difficult time, my wife was pregnant with our daughter—a beautiful child whom today I am restricted from seeing freely. In April 2020, she gave birth during one of the hardest seasons of our lives. We had no stable income. Some days we barely ate. At times, we only had maize flour without vegetables. Feeding a breastfeeding mother once a day was heartbreaking. I was overwhelmed with pressure and responsibility. There were moments I almost considered joining criminal activities just to provide for my family, but I resisted.
In July 2020, I joined a security company as a guard. It was the only job available during the pandemic, and it became the lifeline that sustained my young family until the COVID period eased. Gradually, we began to rebuild. Our baby grew up healthy despite the hardship and eventually started school.
After some time, my wife remained at home without employment. I encouraged her to pursue any opportunity that would contribute to the family. She later secured a job at Eastlight.
In 2022, I decided to formally introduce my wife to my maternal family and celebrate our first child. During the visit, I returned to the city and left her at my parents’ home temporarily. While there, my parents expressed concerns about her behavior and rejected her. Without fully listening to both sides, I defended my wife and stood by her. Later, however, I........to be to continue discovered that some of the concerns raised by my parents were valid.
As a man, I chose to calm my parents and continue supporting my wife, hoping for change. I learned a painful truth: sometimes a person’s true character is revealed only after marriage, not during courtship.
That same year, I had a house construction project I had started before marriage. The project was halfway complete. I trusted my wife and sent her money monthly to complete the construction. Unfortunately, she diverted the funds and instead sent money to her family members. The project stalled.
Around that period, I began receiving reports that she was involved with married men in my maternal village. I refused to believe it because of the trust I had in her. Eventually, I realized that I had been wrong.
In December 2022, she returned to Nairobi and got another job. Instead of focusing on her responsibilities, she engaged in relationships with different men and became pregnant by another man. When I discovered this, I chose not to confront her immediately. Eventually, she moved out and rented her own place, yet she tried to convince me that the pregnancy was mine. I accepted publicly, hoping to overcome evil with good. When she realized that I knew the truth, she terminated the pregnancy to hide the evidence.
After I slowly recovered from the emotional trauma, another incident occurred. Household items—including a 32-inch TV, gas cylinders (13kg and two 6kg), and other properties—went missing. She claimed thieves had attacked and stolen them, but later I learned she had sold them.
Her behavior changed drastically. Whenever I left for work, she would also leave for meetings with other men. One day, I received information that she had been seen on a date at a restaurant. On different occasions, she came home with grilled chicken and pineapples, claiming they were gifts from a friend named Sylvia. I chose to remain calm and observe.
Through all of this, I have endured emotional pain, betrayal, and disappointment. Yet I thank God for sustaining me. Despite everything, I remain standing.
As the Bible says:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
And again:
“Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.” — Psalm 34:19
My story is one of hardship, love, trust, betrayal, and survival—but above all, it is a testimony that God sustains a man even in his darkest valley.
